Episode 29

Published on:

15th Aug 2022

Dad Please Stop Driving!

This episode is about how to get your parents, or a frail spouse, to give up driving

This is a sticky subject for many families and such conversations often erupt in anger.  Trust between you and your parents can wind up strained and your own frustrations and doubts pushed to the limits.

Some families resort to lies, big and little ones, to get their parents to stop driving.  However, once they discern that you’re lying, or trying to, that bond of trust between you all may never recover. As a consequence, your caregiving days will grow more difficult. 

If they’ve agreed to give up driving, and you find you need to dispose of that car. Finding someone to “take it off your hands” may not be easy, especially if it’s seen lots of wear. If it turns out it’s not worth much, consider donating it to a local vocational school where students can practice repairs.  Or donate it to a charitable organization like Kars4Kids, Veterans Car Donation, Make A Wish, or Habitat for Humanity - Car Donation.  If the car still has some value, contact We Buy Any Car. This organization will buy used vehicles for anything from $100 to $100,000!  If the registered owner of the car has already passed, you can try asking the family’s estate attorney to help transfer ownership. However, this may be through probate if you’re not a beneficiary.

Finally, if you’re just starting down this road (pun intended) a little empathy will serve you well in moving the conversation in a positive direction. 

Listen in for more details on how to get things done.

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

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Eldercare Success
Doing It Best with Eldercare Success
Join us in Doing it Best with Eldercare Success where we explore ways to relieve the stress, exhaustion and overwhelm that we all face in caring for an aging parent, frail spouse, or partner. Fear, frustration, emotional and financial strain do not have to be your MO! In this show, we dive into unraveling the tricks, traps, and gotchas that create more questions than answers while caring for those we love.
Join Nancy May, and her guests as she helps relieve the pressures and delivers solid ways to find more joy and freedom as we care for those with those we love. Here you’ll learn how to find the ground under your feet again. Hang tight there’s a better road ahead.
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Nancy May

Nancy May is a corporate leader, business advisor, author, speaker, and nationally recognized podcast host. She has spent her career working with CEOs, Boards of Directors, and senior leaders in the public and private corporate sectors. These experiences gave her the strength and foundation to step in and provide her parents with guidance and support, both as their POA and Trustee, and diehard advocate as they aged. Nancy credits her father an entrepreneur, innovator of innovative eyewear design, and her mom for encouraging and preparing her to acquire the many skills needed to start, build, and lead several successful businesses. She has transitioned these competencies and life lessons to into her new business, CareManity, LLC, which focuses on providing family caregivers structured ways to obtain practical knowledge, resources, and access much-needed support.